Here’s two of the ways your need to achieve and succeed is having a negative impact on your relationship choices (and one thing you can start doing instead today).

You’ll never find the right answer, if you’re asking the wrong question. I know you want to live by a set of ‘rules’. To weigh up the pros-cons, shoulds-shouldn’ts and right-wrongs in belief you’ll suddenly gain certainty that he’s the ‘one’, but that’s not what this is about.

Nooo. Stop right there. Exit the reddit relationship thread window and do these other things to help you make a decision about your relationship. Step awaaaaay.

When you appreciate the complexity of your doubts, it becomes less about is it me or him? Is this good or bad? or Am I right or wrong? It allows you to think about your doubt from a new angle, and find new ways to overcome it. And beliiiiieve me, there are MANY possible reasons - here’s 50.

When you expand the knowledge you can gather from yourself, you expand your ability to make trusted decisions connected with who you are and what you truly want. Let’s go exploring!

Here are three ways to let go of control and the search for unhelpful ideals of happiness in your relationship. Because you cannot control how another person will feel, think and behave, and by striving to, you disconnect from yourself and still have to confront the pain you’ve been avoiding.

When we realise how much we’ve got. We realise how much there is to lose. This causes us to behave in ways that are counter-productive to our own happiness and the happiness of our relationship…

Hint: You won’t find the answer in a ‘7 relationship doubts you must NOT ignore’ blog, or from a stranger in the reddit relationship thread. You already know, you just haven’t worked it out yet. Here’s how…

If you’re feeling this right now, you’re not alone! Here are four suggestions to help you make sense of your relationship doubt during this difficult time.

At a life crossroads? Whether it’s in your relationship, or your career, here’s my single most important piece of advice for deciding whether you’re ready to take a leap in changing your life.

Agonising over whether you should stay or leave your relationship? As a Perfectionist it can be hard to make sense of what’s right for YOU. Here are four things to help you decide.

People pleasing with our partners can disconnect us from what we want, and even who we are - is people pleasing showing up in your relationship? Here are 5 hard truths to help you reflect.

Imagine combining someone with completely unrealistic expectations, someone who is highly critical, and someone who’ll do anything to avoid the negative emotion that failure brings. Then assign them a group leader who lives completely in the present, with no ability to anticipate future benefits, and make them work together to navigate through a maze which has no final destination.

We set goals based on unrealistic or undesirable self expectations, and then we wonder why we don’t stick to them. It’s time to try something different!

Yes a courage hangover is a thing.. and so is a shame hangover.

Sometimes the plan needs to change. Here’s a self coaching exercise to help you let go and become more accepting of the change.

Anxiety is often a gap between the reality and a ‘should’. Here’s how you can learn to accept the reality to free yourself from anxious feelings.

Some advice, and a practical exercise, to help you better manage your self-expectations before your inner critic defeats you.

Productivity self-help isn’t helping us to be more productive. Find out the secret to conquering burnout and create sustainable success for yourself.

Connecting with the experiences of others can teach us so much about finding our courage. Here are three of the best.